Today is the 8th day of National Adoption Month! (See the other posts here).
During the loooooong adoption paperwork process (called a “home study”) for our son, we were encouraged to read the book Dear Birthmother: Thank You for Our Baby by Kathleen Silber and Phyllis Speedlin.
At some point in the 1980’s, a change happened in adoption procedure and culture. Where adoptions used to be private, secret, closed things, they are now for the most part open, communicated, celebrated things. The book talks about the reasons for the shift, the benefits to all members of “the adoption triad” (birth parents / adoptive parents / adoptee), and shares a lot of anecdotal letters back and forth between birth mothers and adoptive parents at the very beginning of the openness in adoption.
It is very very very eye-opening and educating. This book, even though it was written in 1991, is still regarded as a groundbreaking and important book within the adoption community.
We love talking to people about adoption, and if there’s anything we get the most questions about, it’s about our adoption’s openness. I’ll talk more about it in another post, perhaps this month, but in the meantime, please feel free to ask if you have ANY questions at all…we are happy to answer!
We are so glad we read this book, and will continue to re-read it for years to come!